by Coley Strickland
If you’ve been reading this newsletter long, then you’ve read articles about journaling before. Many birthmoms have found journaling to be helpful and healing in their journey through birthmother grief, especially newer birthmoms who are overwhelmed with the many complex feelings they may be experiencing as a new birthmother.
A few things to keep in mind about journaling:
- Don’t judge what you are writing. This isn’t a term paper being graded with a red pen. The point is to get your feelings down on paper so overlook grammar errors and misspelled words and just get your thoughts and feelings down on paper.
- Don’t think too much. Just write what you feel and let intuition be your guide.
- There may be days when you don’t feel like sitting down and writing but there may be other days in which you crave writing so do it when the urge comes however, try to set aside a little “you” time each week in which you can write. This will help you get in the habit of writing.
Want to write but have no clue what to write about?? Below are some journaling prompts to get you started.
- Write about your hospital experience.
- Write about your child’s adoptive parents. Did you choose them? If so, why?
- Write about your child’s name. Did you choose it? If so, why? If not, what would you have chosen?
- Write about your hopes and dreams for your child’s future.
- Write about why you chose adoption.
- Write about the positive ways being a birthmother has changed your life.
- Write about the negative ways being a birthmother has changed your life.
- Do you tell other people you are a birthmother? What is their response?
- If you could take your birth child anywhere in the world for one day, where would you go?
- When and how did you find out you were pregnant?
- Who was the first person you told about your pregnancy?
- What physical characteristics or personality traits do you hope your child has that are like yours?
- What type of adoption do you have? Did you choose this type of adoption? If so, why?
- Is there a song that reminds you of your child? What song is it and why does it remind you of your child?
- Write your child a letter about what has been going on in your life and the world at large lately.
Now, go write!